Would you get married again? (1456 views, 108 replies)
@ I was seriously engaged twice, and broke it off both times.I think I was right to break it,the availability of "non-losers" or "non-cheaters" was bad.
God
@delamitri Aw, a couple of stares is nothin'. I always get stares this time of year. Methinks my white beard may be a tad too long. Not to mention the jelly belly and the twinkly eyes...
@delamitri Yeah, no John-Boy this time of year. It's either Santa or their Pop-Pop that little ones think I am. Truth is, theres no way I could be Santa. No merry dimples unless you count knees.
master
No way, once was enough. I enjoy not sharing my tech & bed & everything else too much to do it again.
@summer021 Very well said. We get poisoned basically by fairy tales, and the real thing is not anything close to perfection.
Takes times to learn that however....
@𝓜𝓸𝓾𝓼𝓮*🐭 yeah to this day these tales still exist in movies and books giving young girls such a wrong idea of "happily ever after". there really is no such thing. there is happy here and there with a whole lot of unhappy in between. marriage is just alot of work and sometimes it works out with some (though remaining happy , i dont know), and most times it just doesnt
senior guru
Still happily married to the first one.
Whether he's happy or not is immaterial lol
senior guru
I am divorced, BUT, the ex lives in the apt., over the garage, (he says he needs to save money for awhile) I did give him until January,than I am renting it to someone else for what the rent should be(he pays very little right now).
It would have to be someone very special for me to get married again, I love being able to come and go as I please. My daughter is married, and she and my grandaughter, and my daughters hubby, live near by, so my life (not even to mention the dogs,lol) is pretty full......
@Rescue Dog Mama LOL! If it wasn't for sex...young men would NEVER get married. I don't know about young women. When you get older, you realize that you don't have to be married to have sex...regularly...or as much as you want it. If older people get married..it is for the company...or maybe economics. At least IMO. There's the old joke..."How do you stop a women from having sex"? You marry her!
@bondojoe My thing is, I am happier being single, I can and do support myself, as I said my daughter is married, so it is "me" time, I got married way too young (18) and the ex and I just grew apart. I grew up, he acts like he is 15, LOL.... had nothing to do with sex...
@bondojoe its not the 50's anymore. men and women know there is no need to get married to have sex. unfortunately, after marriage there is no sex so yeah if youre a young person you maybe think you gotta try marriage once and also to start a family if you want kids. if your older and/or divorced, its either Hell No never again, or yeah i'll try it again for companionship
@summer021 You'd be surprised how many young men get married so that they can have sex regularly, without any of the hassle. LOL! I'm old, my grandkids, nephews, and cousins are not. But a lot of them are now divorced.
@bondojoe Yes,I read all these articles that people who really like sex,get married to have a steady, safe supp.y of it.
senior master
I would marry my husband again... and again 100 times over. Good men exist as does true love and relationships that last. We've known each other since childhood so our foundation was built on a strong friendship first which I believe to be the secret to a lasting relationship. He is my one true blessing in life that I am grateful for every day I wake.
Too many people get married for the wrong reasons or rush into it all and that's why so many marriages fail in my opinion but that should not discourage anyone. If you went through a divorce or had bad experiences in relationships, don't lose hope unless it is what you want out of life (to be single) then all power to you. Otherwise, keep your faith.
As you mature and grow older, you realize how important it is to have that certain someone in your life and that companionship is worth more than anything in the world.
Relationships aren't perfect nor are they meant to be. It's through the struggles, the hardships, challenges that builds a strong bond or will break it. Those times are the ones to be thankful for and when you love someone - that is good to you and for you - you should never let go of a good thing.
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senior master
I suppose it would be against the law and considered bigamy and the wifey wouldn't like to be visiting me in prison.
@---BOX--- OOPS,I knew this nice young guy from Jordan;he was a legal citizen,and was dating a Jewish girl.But he was still married to his FIRST WIFE & had no plans to divorce before he married the Jewish girl,bigamy.
senior master
Then again... some people just aren't marriage material or made for anyone but themselves. Nothing wrong with that either.
@summer021 This is all very much true. Being "compatible" is important and helps.
Marriage takes work like anything else in life and some people are not built for it for many reasons.
It's sad that some get bitter and lose hope just from a few bad experiences.
I know just as many people who have divorced as I do who are in long term committed relationships/marriages.
If one is suffering in a relationship, yes get out fast and don't waist your time...
@3UN01A agree. why do some stay even though they are miserable just because for some reason they were brought up believing divorce is wrong or some believe they should stay together for the kids (which in my opinion is even worse)? i am not saying quit the minute it gets tough but seriously, if nothing is working be-it couples therapy, etc, then yeah...get out fast. there is no shame it that. we got one life on earth, why waste it being miserable?
@summer021 Maybe fear of being alone, scared of change, religious beliefs, family pressure, kids... all really sad excuses to not leave. I hope anyone that is in an unhappy, or abusive , miserable relationship/marriages can find the courage to up and leave.
You have one life to live and it's yours - don't let anyone take that from you. Be happy!
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never married.... you got a check? roles are reversed bruhhhhh.... i don't believe women are breadwinners in the house. but they will try to bake that bread. so you better buy the house. and once she gets tired of swimming in that aquarium, destroy it and build a SIMS house.....
marriage ain't nothing but a check. whatever it "costs" you is just an illusion of you being in an aquarium. last time i checked, you and your "significant other" aren't living off the land, whilst you have time to respond to this forum on the internet. stop lying to yourself. whoever has that bread is going to get the women to break it up. you don't make it. stop ACTING like you got PAPER. all you really want is MONEYYYYYYYYYYY.....
so sign the pre-nup if your rich, or be prepared to build and architect this b**ches life out, including her wack ass family and wack ass friends... your just a check and PERSONAL IS POLITICAL....
ROLES ARE CHANGED BROSSSSSSSS
@30somethingidiot Rolls change all of the time. People still want sex, companionship, and security. Those lines on a paper still men a lot to some women, and men. But the bottom line is currency.
@30somethingidiot There are truly a lot a gold diggers out there especially today. You do have a point although I don't know who you are replying to.
Male and female gold diggers both exist.
That's not what a good marriage is about though and you can do things that will prevent that.
master
No, it has ALWAYS BEEN for hundreds of years that women marry for money and financial security,and "arranged marriages"are still done in some nations.But marriage is no longer a safe haven for women,and the amt. of husbands just DESERTING a family, or just gone,is higher,or it's a rotten marriage, but long ago,people STAYED in the marriages.
guru
No fkn way no how.. Don't care about the doorknob glittering piece you wanna put on my finger! I shall cut off that finger!! 😂
@CollideDuhScope Marriage was always a social construct. Women really used to value it. Some, like you , would rather lose a didgit!
master
We older(oldest) women would not get married now, for the reasons of "guys trying to marry old ladies for their money",or"clashing legal -money situations of marriage"old people have.Its really impractical now(as well as impossible.) 
God
@bondojoe Honestly, I wasn't looking at the time, and I've never had a boyfriend younger like this. He found me. lol Just to be clear, I'm not superficial enough to have a "boy toy". He's more mature than any of the men my age and much better company. :)
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@HelelbenShahar I second that!
It's a chance worth taking and that's what life is all about! :)
@ LOL! Yes...I perfomed the ceremony for my sister, three years ago. I wanted to wear an Elvis costume, but she wouldn't let me. She and her husband had written their own vows, but I snuck in the question.."Who give this womana away"? Everyone in the crowd shouted out... 'WE do!" Alas, the marriage was built on sand, and she divorced just last month. She is back with her old boyfriend. So my record at the moment, is 0 for 1. But I am still hopeful that I will get to perform a union that will endure.
@bondojoe Wow, that's an interesting story. Thanks for telling me (us).
I reckon she should've let you dress as Elvis! I think fancy dress is a terrific idea for a wedding. People put too much pressure on the external aspect of "that" day, to me.
What else are you officially able to do with your ordination?
@ I really don't know! I never officially checked into it. I just made sure that I was accepted by the state to perform weddings. I will have to chewck it out, and see if it comes with any other benefits. I would imagine that I am able to do anything that any authorized clergy can do, accosrding to state laws. When my Sister decided to get divorced, she asked me of I could do that. I told her that i didn't get a law degree. I agree with you about the dress aspect. It's one day that you should try to have some fun! I had already rented an Elvis costume, the white one, with the big collar, rhinestones, dark glasses, and wig...LOL!
@---BOX--- I never picked it up...I just called and camcelled it...now I wish I had picked it up, and worn it.
@bondojoe Pictures please!!!
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That's gas. Apparently your sister didn't inherit your sense of humour?
I reckon the Irish deal with most situations in life, especially tragedies, via humour. We take the mick with nearly everything (which sometimes means that we get misunderstood, lol.)
Though I further will add that some of the most absurd (in terms of pomp and pretension) weddings I've ever attended were Irish. Sadly, most brides don't have a very profound sense of humour.
God
I wish I had pictures! I wish I had gone ahead , anyway. I reserved the costume online. It was out at the time, and was supposed to be back in 3 days. During that time, my sister changed her mind, and wouldn't let me wear it. I called to cancel...and they said that was MY problem...LOL! I called the Credit card company, and asked them to stop payment. Either they did, or they eased it in somewhere later, and I didn't notice! You're right. My sister has no sense of humor. Everyone says she's just like my dad was. Im mean, I was willing to look like an idiot, and wear the costume..how much fun would that be!? I have an open offer to all my friends and family to perform any ceremony in any character that they desire! I hope I get a bite! I always worked hard in life, but when I wasn't working, I looked for the ways to have the most fun. I think too many people have been programmed to act "responsibly"..aother word for dull! As long as it is fun, I don't care if I'm the "Butt" of the joke, or the instigator.
guru
Having tried marriage 3 times now those stupefying falls off the marriage-go-round are enough to insure it's not a supportable institution in my realm of reality. These days my cat Bob puts all the constraints on my comings and goings I'll willingly accept 
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Would you say "I do" with the same person? Most women that I talk to say that they would never give a man that kind of power, or control over them. Most men tell me that they would not get married again, and then be unappreciated. Or used. How about you? Would you do the deed again? If you have never BEEN married...will you? What will it take?