When you die, who gets your stuff? (828 views, 16 replies)

I know it's morbid, but we all face it someday. If you have anything, there's going to be fights over it. If you've never seen it, let me tell you ...people get greedy. Have you ever seen it happen? Have you been in the middle of it? So have you made plans? Who gets your stuff? If not YOUR stuff, are you and your siblings clear on who gets what, when both your parents are dead? Are your brothers and sisters trustworthy? Give us the skinny!

My stuff? Well one of the many things I call Son is He-who-shall-inherit-my debts. Although I no longer have any of those, so I guess he got a break there. I don't have much to leave, but apart from my jewellery which will go to my niece what there is will be his.

But I have an amusing tale.
My Dad was one of 9 children and was the only boy. My Auntie's were always falling out with each other, Dad said he could never keep up with who was speaking to who at any given time, and Grandad used to tell my Dad that he knew they would squabble endlessly about who would get what when he died. Even though none of them were exactly poor, they all live in houses they own and two of my Aunties are actually pretty well off. (Their mother died when I was very young so no spouse to get his stuff).
So Grandad decided to opt for a scheme where he sold his house - but was allowed to live out his days there, the company would just take possession when he died. Only three people knew, Dad, Me, and my cousin who lived with Grandad as his carer. Grandad gave money to cousin-carer so that when the time came she could set herself up, gave some money to each of his grand/greatgrandchildren (there are loads of us, but as they weren't speaking the aunts did not realise quite how much he had given away, so none the wiser) spent most of what was left, and any remaining on his death went to a charity for ex-servicemen, as Grandad had been a navy man himself.
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After his funeral we all went back to his house, once the drinks started flowing so did the arguments between the sisters.

I didn't go to the reading of the will - but Dad said that when the sisters realised there was no money for them.. and more importantly no house sale to reap the proceeds from, it was the quietest any of them had been for years.
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My brother.

There's not going to be any fights for my stuff or my money. Most of my family is dead and by the time I go it will just be he and I. He can have whatever he wants or give it to my niece and nephews.

I don't really care about anyone else. The rest of the world could disappear as long as my brother and his family are okay.

My family fight over even simple things, the fights and arguements over the recent posessions of my passed sister at the time was sickening just to view how some can become over things, just because of something tragic that happens, not saying that i make a fuss because how people react, but its just silly how my family gets busy and tempered from someone elses recent items.

Some of my family has stopped talking to one another from my sisters death in 2010, and still to this day will angeringly debate one another over something happened years ago, things still being fought over, even though the best things they all posess is eachother and memories.....

When i die............can't think of a soul to give anything to, i have nothing to give except my words and kindness, should be enough for most decent people, possessions are limited, a well chosen word or action can last an eternity.....dunno guess the poorest would only be acceptable to benifit from whatever i may have left when gone to the primordial essence once more

No one. Fck 'em. I'm taking it all with me, Tutankhamun style.

when my sister dies, (only relative left)she is leaving everything she has to her friends in her club.Its fine with me--i don't want any of her real estate,it has huge mortgages.we made the mistake of inheriting land, i am living on some(not valuable but high taxes)and everything is in a "trust".

when everyone has died,and you don't talk to relatives way back east, or the other side in WA state, the way American society moves far away,and you sdon't know or see relatives(especially in old age cause you can't travel much)you don't really care.

My sister inherits everything i own,or live on.--including money and jewelry.its all planned out.i have a experoence friend who will take care of funeral, ends,here, we discussed it,shes very trustworthy,she's done this before.i decided to be cremated(most of my family does its clean)and i am leaving a little to a few people; my sister knows this.

i have to do my "medical advanced directive"i refuse to legally stay on any life support--so i am legally arranging that--Oregon has legal suicide too.(its strict.)--ANY LIFE SUPPORT.--no comas,no breathing sh*t, nothing.(I have the papers, will do it.)
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we have dementia in both families, and i know how to find certain very poisoneous things in nature far more deadly than pills--with no resusitation possible--you'd be surprised how easy it is to find-deadly trees,flowers,plants,seeds,berries,and all this info. is on the web.you don't have to live in pain,or wait for a doctor.poisoneous things,very deadly,are everywhere.--or a bottle of whiskey and pain pills will stop you.GONE!!

its responsible to plan your exit, its your life you take care of it.why should you let others put you on a machine?unless you want that.but if you neglect your exit, you easily wind up on a machine with no dignity, a dying shell.--doctors and the law will do that,IF YOU DON'T DO A ADVANCED DIRECTIVE.I recommend it.Do a Kevorkian, he was a great guy.
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I'm leaving my son ALL MY BILLS...lol

Anybody who wants it, I don't care who fights over what, I'll not be around to listen to them piss and moan about it.